Bamboo forest, Kyoto
Photograph by the author
Epanding on the idea of the inherently feminine nature of all creation, there are consequential understandings to be reached about the nature of men and women, and their relationships.
On this level, all masculinity is by default dependent on femininity for its nature. Just as the bad serves the good – on every level subordinate to God, each higher thing has an opposing lower nature, which is obliged by law to serve it — all of being outside of God Himself emerges, ultimately, from the fecund and essentially feminine nature of material reality and the act of creation which eternally (outside of time) gives birth to it. Just as God is the male principle that puts the seed in material reality, so are all things birthed from its femininity.
In this way we understand that all men are, in a subtle sense, utterly dependent on women for everything that they are and all that they do.
Men cannot be men without women, and a man who truly understands his manhood will begin to understand that it is supported by everything feminine around him. All of the women that he knows, beginning with his mother, extending to his female siblings, his female children, and all of the women who he ever knows, including the ones who he Loves — and if his heart is truly open, he will Love all women — are what create his existence. This is true even for men whose sexual choices are other men, because even in those cases, the women around the men are the persons who support them and whom they serve.
No man can be a man without women; and they deserve his eternal gratitude for this.
In this way every man ought to be the servant of all women and honor them. Men have an extraordinary responsibility and duty towards women. To violate this is one of the greatest sins a man can commit; et it is not uncommon, because men are generally drunk on their manhood and do not understand it in the least.
A man needs to extend his being deeply into his own femininity to understand how, at the core of his being, he is also a woman designed to receive the seed of the Lord. This is much more difficult inner work for men that it is for women; because man's nature is more separated from the fundamental nature of material reality, they have a greater distance to cover in the understanding and receiving of Love. That distance tempts men to unusual kinds of irresponsibility in this area; and that separation is what gives rise to a great deal of the violence that men are so overwhelmingly guilty of.
This question goes well beyond both psychology and sexuality, because it is a spiritual — not a natural — question, and we are accustomed to understanding everything according to the natural sciences instead of the spiritual ones. If men were able to understand this question more organically and intuit it spiritually, they would be quite different creatures.
Men and women have a fundamentally different relationship to sexuality, because a man is always, through the action of his sexuality and orgasm, unconsciously attempting to return to the feminine and surrender his masculinity in a merger with his root of origin. Women have no basic need to do this, so orgasm is actually less important to most of them; while they appreciate this experience and can enjoy it as much as men, their own intimate and emotional nature draws them first to a wish for emotional satisfaction in which the femininity of sex (because in a certain subtle way, on our level, all sex is feminine) is joined together and celebrated. In point of fact, they have a more sensitive and intelligent understanding of sexuality than men do. Men experience sex almost solely in terms of the orgasm, after which it is over; whereas women understand it as a holistic and chronic entity that includes child bearing and the raising of families. I think that men have, in some very perverse ways, cheated themselves of a deeper understanding of this because of the way our society understands these questions.
Lee van Laer is a senior editor at Parabola Magazine.